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June 30, 2007

You Can Be Happy Now

I found this wonderfully refreshing article by Maurine Patten of PattenCoaching.com that I thought you’d enjoy, too.  Let me know what you think.
— TB


You Can Be Happy Now

During the last fifty years, there have been spurts of positive income growth, purchasing power and an unbelievable increase in luxuries in the U.S. However, Richard Layard, a British economist says that we have been living on a happiness plateau.

The disconnection between what we have and what we feel has created much interest among social scientists, psychologists and writers. It has also led to a significant amount of research in the area of happiness.

For instance, important research in the area of Positive Psychology has discovered what contributes to a sense of well-being and happiness. One of the exciting discoveries is that there are things you can do to increase happiness without making major life changes. Ongoing research and publications on happiness indicate that once your basic needs are met, money does not make you happy. Things that have the potential to make you happy are:

• Family.

• Friends.

• Meaningful work that you enjoy.

• Community involvement.

• More giving and less getting.

• Gratefulness for what you have.

• Less watching television.

While you may not want to put time and energy into each of these areas, there are probably a couple that would be meaningful to you. From the above list, make a commitment and plan to enrich several of these areas in your life.

Some things you can do with your favorite memories to begin to feel happier are:

• Make a list of your favorite memories from the last six months.

• Find some photos or mementos to remind you of your positive memories. Put them in a place where you can easily see them.

• Choose one of your favorite memories and use visual imagery or a mental snapshot to savor the experience and feeling. Then, deposit the memory in your "happiness account".

Research also indicates that how you choose to think about things can affect your level of happiness. The article "Sweet Remembrance" in the July 2006 issue of Psychology Today pointed out how positive memories can increase your feelings of happiness and help you be healthier.

If you want to try doing this as an exercise for yourself:

• Take fifteen to twenty minutes a day to think about happy or good experiences you have had. It is especially helpful to do this before you fall asleep at night.

• Replay them in color in your head as if you were watching a movie.

• Capture the feeling that goes with it.

Be sure to think of how the experience felt then rather than focusing on the event being over now. To improve your mood, it is important to see each good event as permanently enriching rather than temporary.

In addition to decreasing feelings of depression and improving your health, this exercise can:

• Motivate you.

• Give you a sense of meaning and purpose.

• Boost your mood.

• Decrease stress.

• Increase self-esteem.

• Improve friendships and close relationships.

• Help you cope with problems more effectively.

• Increase your sense of well-being.

Start to reap the benefits from having an improved sense of well-being and feeling happier today by choosing to follow some of these suggestions. Positive Psychology can help you move forward confidently and successfully.


Maurine Patten, Ed.D., CMC, Maximize Your Possibilities http://www.PattenCoaching.com mdpcoach@pattencoaching.com ; More free information, Emotional Intelligence Assessment and ezine subscription at http://www.PattenCoaching.com

June 27, 2007

Taking responsibility, without blame or guilt

Filed under: Personal Development — tshombe @ 5:01 am

“We cannot change anything until we accept it.  Condemnation does not liberate; it oppresses.”

I discovered this quote by Carl Gustav Jung this weekend while attending Dov Baron’s Mind Mastery program.  More accurately, I should have discovered the quote during the program, but I actually only just noticed it today when I was reviewing my notes.

It hits so close to home for me and really reinforces a powerful lesson I learned about taking responsibility for my life and what I’ve made of it, while at the same time releasing myself from blame.

I’ve been a student of personal development in some form for many years; I can trace it back to my early adolescence.  A key piece I have come to believe (and have reinforced in particular the last few years) is that I am absolutely responsible for everything that I experience or that occurs in my life.

Unfortunately, that would often mean that I felt crushed about what I created in my life.  Taking responsibility became a heavy burden; I would emotionally flog myself.

I equated responsibility with blame.  I blamed myself, I called myself horrible names, and I generally disrespected myself.
 
As a result, I felt guilty and beat myself up.  The bad thing about guilt is that it gives permission to stay stuck, rather than pick yourself up and move forward.

My revelation this weekend was that taking responsibility doesn’t equal blame.  Quite to the contrary, taking responsibility means acceptance.  It means awareness.  It means I am now fully awake, so that next time I can make a different choice, a conscious choice, an empowering choice.

I am now committed to welcoming responsibility with open arms, but this time without blame.  Instead, I joyfully embrace responsibility as an opportunity to evolve and change and grow.

June 21, 2007

Away to enjoy Dov Baron’s Mind Mastery seminar and workshop

Filed under: Uncategorized — tshombe @ 2:00 pm

I am away for several days for Dr. Dov Baron’s Mind Mastery program in Richmond, British Columbia, Canada.  I am SUPER-EXCITED about what I will learn and discover about myself, and how I can concsciously attract abundance in every aspect of my life.

I am looking forward to sharing many of my insights upon my return. 

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