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November 29, 2007

Why I have a problem with the word “forgive”

Filed under: Peace, Personal Development — tshombe @ 5:34 pm

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I’m not sure I particularly like the word “forgive,” at least the way it is commonly used.

Forgiveness is wrapped up with the religious concept that there is something inherently wrong with us.

But for the great mercy and benevolent grace of a fickle, unknowable god, we’d be hapless sinners, doomed to the everlasting fire.

This is nonsense.  It just keeps people stuck where they are, addicted to guilt and blame.

What is there to forgive, anyway?

Deepak Chopra (in his book, Peace is the Way) offers this refreshing thought on the matter:

Whatever mistake you have made about who you are is temporary. Your true identity has remained untouched.  You have never sinned against it or affected it in any way except to lose touch with it.  The prevailing problem for each person is separation and nothing else…there is no self to change.  There are only masks that we wear for a moment and then discard.  If you can cherish yourself even as you discard your current favorite mask, you are living perfectly in the way of peace.

Of course, if we do something that harms or dishonors ourselves or someone else, it is natural (and right) to feel genuinely sorry for it and seek to make complete restitution.

But there is no need for wailing, dressing in sackcloth, and sitting in dust and ashes.

Taking responsibility doesn’t mean assigning guilt or blame to ourselves (or anyone else).

Nneka over at Balanced Life Center addresses the tendency to flog ourselves over some perceived wrong and how to release that so that we can move on with our lives in joy instead of self-blame.

She titles her blog entry, Forgive Yourself.

But that’s OK; I forgive her 🙂 (Just kidding!)


November 25, 2007

Releasing addiction to suffering and struggle

Filed under: Abundance, Law of Attraction / Resonance, Personal Development — tshombe @ 5:00 pm

This weekend, I was talking with my mom and my aunt and we agreed that it could be a pretty hard pill to swallow to consider that we might be addicted to, or in love with (or addicted to) our pain and suffering.

On the surface, to say such a thing seems a bit ridiculous.

But the truth is that we are all taught that the way to get ahead in this world is to work hard, to put our nose to the grindstone, to struggle.  If struggle is not attached to the processsing of accomplishing something, we may have been told that we were lazy.

As far as suffering is concerned, we may have had misinterpretations of the Bible thrust upon us, convincing us to welcome suffering "for great is your reward in heaven." 

Maybe all that struggling is unnecessary.  Maybe "they" were wrong.

My mother, for example, has struggled all of her life and has worked harder than nearly anyone else I’ve known.  Unfortunately, all that struggling hasn’t conducted her closer to the fulfillment of her dreams.

I’m sure you’ve seen people in your life like my mother.  Maybe you can personally relate.

I’ve been learning from spiritual teachers that life has a grain to it, and it’s more joyful to go with the flow rather than against the grain.  To go against the grain — what we’ve been taught to do all our lives — is resistance ("What you resist persists") that takes us away from joy, away from authentic abundance, not any closer.

And who doesn’t want more joy in their life?

I think we all know that they is an easier way.  Deep in ourselves, we know what is true and untrue for us.

Dov Baron at is mind-blowing (no pun intended) personal development program, Mind Mastery, referred to this as "discernment."  The opposite of "judgment" — which is presuming to know what’s best for others and imposing that view on them — personal discernment is all about us, all about choosing for ourselves what is true and right and good.

I like that.  Personal discernment is personal empowerment.

Ease and flow.  I love those words.

And no struggling.


November 14, 2007

Thankful for being Thanks Full

Filed under: Abundance, Gratitude, Law of Attraction / Resonance — tshombe @ 5:28 pm

During this Season of Gratitude, I am pleased and thankful to share with you here some inspirational thoughts from my good friend, Andrew Mugford.  Thanks, Mugs! 🙂

— TB

Andrew Mugford, Accountability Coach
What are you Thankful for? What Thanks are you Full of?

Are you thankful for the people who are and have come into your life? Are you thankful for the lessons they’ve taught you?

I’ll tell you something I’ve learned.

If you want to lead a great life, start from a position of thankfulness. Start with an ‘attitude of gratitude’. Make a list of all the things you are grateful for in your life. Read this list out loud in the morning and before you go to bed.

Sound strange? Think of the alternative? Actually, don’t. Don’t think of what you don’t have.

Always focus on what you DO have… and watch that grow!


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