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December 15, 2007

How to look at fear for what it really is and move past it

Filed under: Fear Busting, Personal Development — tshombe @ 12:11 am

A little over a year ago, I wrote about finding inspiration by feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

Unless we’re running from or fighting off wild boars or something, whatever the thing is that we’re fearing is made up, imaginery — even if it seems very real in the moment.

I came across a little exercise that Susan Hinds of Xocai Healthy Chocolate shared about how to get to the root of whatever it is we’re fearing.  Sometimes knowledge itself is transformative.

She was reading The Success Principles, by Jack Canfield.  In it, Jack offers the following exercise:

To help you better understand how we actually bring unfounded fear into our lives, make a list of things you are afraid to do. This is not a list of things you are afraid of, such as being afraid of spiders, but things you’re afraid to do, such as pick up a spider.

  • Ask my boss for a raise
  • Ask Sally out for a date
  • Go skydiving
  • Leave my kids home alone with a sitter
  • Leave this job that I hate
  • Take 2 weeks away from the office
  • Ask my friends to look at my new business opportunity
  • Delegate any part of my job to others

Now go back and restate each fear using the following format:

I want to ________________, and I scare myself by imaging _______________ .

The key words are I scare myself by imagining.  All fear is self-created by imagining some negative outcome in the future.

What do you think of that?

What in your life are you afraid of doing that leaves you immobilized, right where you are in life rather than where you want to be?

I challenge you to take a few minutes to do this exercise for yourself to see what you discover about yourself.

Dov Baron said in his experiential program, Attracting Force, that "All fear exists in either the past or the future.  In ‘the now,’ there is only love.  Step out of fear and into love."

Isn’t that great?  Isn’t that powerful?

If we substitute fear with love, what is there that we wouldn’t do?

 

October 23, 2007

How to release fear in favor of skinny-dipping in the Unified Field

Filed under: Abundance, Fear Busting, Law of Attraction / Resonance — tshombe @ 9:25 pm

This past weekend, Chad and I experienced for the second time a gift surpassing all others.  We attended Dr. Dov Baron’s 3-day intensive workshop, Attracting Force, where we experienced firsthand how to release fears that have been holding us back from being all that we are meant to be.

Everyone on Earth should attend Attracting Force, and really, all of Dov’s life-changing personal development programs.

Chad wrote a poem this past spring that reveals how to release fear and enter into joy.  Every time I read it, I feeeeeeeel the magic of every word as it sends chills up my spine.

You can read it here on The Inspiration Nation or on Chad’s own website.  It is nothing short of inspirational and inspiring.

If you click on the link on the audio player below, you can listen to me reading Skinny-Dipping in the Unified Field as you follow along.

 

or, you can Click here to listen…

I’m excited to hear your impressions!

 

July 25, 2007

Lessons from crabs about why we must be vulnerable

Filed under: Fear Busting, Personal Development — tshombe @ 12:45 am

What do crabs know that we humans have trouble understanding?

What?  Have no idea?

Neither did I, until Dov Baron explained this phenomenon.  The blunt truth is that crabs willingly make themselves vulnerable in order to grow.

It’s a strange paradox that many of us have difficulty — some are openly resistant to even the idea — allowing ourselves to be vulnerable when we may cognitively know that growth (both personally and professionally) requires the courage to be vulnerable.

And the common crab can teach us a thing or two about the value of embracing risk and vulnerability in the interests of growth.

What I didn’t know about crabs (that once mentioned to me I see as plainly obvious) is that their skeleton (called an exoskeleton) is on the outside of their bodies.  It is hard and inflexible, and it’s main function is protection.  For example, if a bird or other like predator pecks at or attacks the crab, the crab’s exoskeleton serves as armor, as a barrier from and against the blows.

This same structure, because of its inflexibility, also (ironically) becomes a ceiling for growth and development of the organism.

The crab intuitively knows that, in order to grow, it must back out of its shell.  Tthis is what the crab, in fact, does.

The process of shedding the exoskeleton is called molting.  As reported by Brian Handwerk of National Geographic News,  "They pump themselves up and inflate their gut, and that increased pressure will cause the old outer skeleton to crack, so that the crab can back out of it."

The only problem is, now without a protective skeleton, the crab is open to attack; it is now vulnerable.  However, if it were to remain within it’s restrictive shell, it would suffocate.

So it is with us.

We’re trained (particularly men) that vulnerability is the ultimate death, that it will pierce the heart, leaving us disgraced and pitiful.

But, what if you were to outgrow your armor?  What could you do, have, or be if you refused to suffocate in your protective shell?

When you decide to live your life authentically and honestly by discarding your exoskeleton, you are indeed more open to attack.  At the same time, however, it’s simply not possible to grow and become all you are meant to be by staying where you are.

What might you be holding onto (in the name of protection or self-preservation) that may be keeping you from realizing your dreams?

What might be wonderful about letting that go?

 

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